This isn't so much a new piece as it is an opportunity to bring The Peace Game and God's Will Isn't Rocket Surgery back around to some newer readers while offering a few thoughts to serve as companions to the things discussed in those pieces.
I still very regularly deal with people journeying out of P/QF and the Christian Homeschooling movement (and other recovering religious addicts in general) who can't make a decision without "hearing from God". That very thing ("hearing from God") was the impetus for my ex to be whisked away to another state, housed by hyper-fundamentalist people like-minded to her parents, and have the Peace Game played on her. Her elder sister had the exact same sabbatical, to the exact same place, to do the exact same thing (hear from God), just a few months prior - with the exact same result: conformity to the group goals. Neither of them have so much as a clue what God "sounds" like.
First of all, if you need to "hear from God" about something or some decision, you're already about 90% of the way toward arriving at a terrible decision. If guilt, in any form, is playing any part in your need to "hear from God", you're most likely being manipulated. Second, if you need to "hear from God", you probably wouldn't even know what God sounded like if you did hear from him. Your ideas about God are probably the product of the people in "authority" over you - a God shaped in their image, ruled by their agendas, fears, whims, and desires. Essentially, a version of God that's a world-class asshole who will punish you with plagues, shame, a Norwegian strain of halitosis, a horrible life, and eternal damnation if you do the "wrong" thing.
Coming from the background that most of you do, my advice to you would be if something makes you feel guilty, well, it's probably the right thing to do. Do it and don't look back. Few good and meaningful things in life come without some resistance - and that's especially true for you guys. Most of you have had to go to hell and back just to find a tiny sliver of genuine, lasting freedom and personal liberty, having been stuck behind the Iron Curtain of patriarchal fiefdoms, religious addictions, and religious lunacy.
If you know right from wrong, you've already "heard from God". If you profess Christianity, yet don't really know right from wrong and still struggle with finding "God's will", you're not in any spiritual/emotional/psychological shape, whatsoever, to "hear from God" in the manner you think you should to begin with. So stop. Please. What's God gonna say to you? "Hey. How's it goin'? Want some gum?" or something more like "Thou shalt..." or "Thou shalt not..."? Or will God sound like Screech from Saved By The Bell?
You can keep trying to "hear from God" and continue making terrible, guilt-ridden, acceptance/approval-seeking, religious addiction-driven decisions - confusing God with anything that speaks loudly or happens to offer a release of pressure in your pursuit of a false and destructive "peace", or, if you're genuinely a person of faith, you can trust your heart because of God within.
Just stop trying so hard to prove to God how religious you are. The people who truly love you don't need you to run a spiritual obstacle course to prove anything to them. If they do, they're toxic. If God were toxic, why would you even care what he had to say? Why would you want to please and worship that God?
Breathe. Heal. Live.