It goes on to say...
The syndrome develops in response to a three-stage cycle found in domestic violence situations. First, tension builds in the relationship. Second, the abusive partner releases tension via violence while blaming the victim for having caused the violence. Third, the violent partner makes gestures of contrition. However, the partner does not find solutions to avoid another phase of tension building and release so the cycle repeats. The repetition of the violence despite the abuser's attempts to "make nice" results in the abused partner feeling at fault for not preventing a repeat cycle of violence. However, since the victim is not at fault and the violence is internally driven by the abuser's need to control, this self-blame results in feelings of helplessness rather than empowerment.
Does anyone see the connection I'm pointing at here? How much of the following fits right into the above?...
"I'm just a sinful worm! I don't begin to deserve even a drop of mercy! I deserve God's wrath and punishment! It's only through God's grace and the death and blood of Jesus! I'm totally unworthy of his love, mercy, and grace! I deserved death because I'd failed God, but instead, God gave me life by the bloodshed of his son! He's perfect, and I'm so much less! Just a worm! I deserved hell, and only through his grace and forgiveness will I see heaven! So my life has to be ALL about him and not about me!"
If the relationship described in that last paragraph were between two people we'd be screaming for the person to get out and get help, screaming that the other person was dangerous, that nothing good or healthy could ever possibly come from it. And people wonder why, although still an intensely spiritual person, I no longer identify with traditional Christianity? The basic tenets of orthodox Christianity demand the mindset in that paragraph - you've failed God, you're utterly depraved (in some strains - merely a "wretched sinner" and worm in others) while God is perfect, you deserve judgment and death, only through innocent blood will you get life, and God is merciful.
Look at just how low we've set the bar for God.
Or maybe I just don't know him the way you do. Right?