tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6879552692521649812.post2701435242354321370..comments2024-01-04T15:56:19.156-05:00Comments on Commandments of Men: Sweet Like PoisonLewishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05596138376570543467noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6879552692521649812.post-73822839979031174192011-07-05T10:26:23.577-04:002011-07-05T10:26:23.577-04:00No matter how much sugar (keep sweet) you add to p...No matter how much sugar (keep sweet) you add to poison, it will kill you.<br />Just ask the dead ants that were trying to infest my house. We fed them boric acid sweetened with sugar.<br />If they were alive and had a voice, they'd tell you, sweet poison will kill you faster than unsweet. Because people are less tempted by the unsweetened version.<br />Thanks for the mention, LewisMara Reidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16385458933795539928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6879552692521649812.post-50316255698904517772011-06-29T21:20:55.414-04:002011-06-29T21:20:55.414-04:00No wonder you call them snakes.
JenniferNo wonder you call them snakes. <br /><br />JenniferAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6879552692521649812.post-32642465598263126352011-06-29T16:27:04.417-04:002011-06-29T16:27:04.417-04:00Ugh I HATED the phoniness!! My mom would sound all...Ugh I HATED the phoniness!! My mom would sound all sweet and syrupy on the phone, but be mad at us...or how the whole family would be nice to other people and once they were gone, criticize the hell out of them. It was awful.QuicksilverQueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11557037093560947882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6879552692521649812.post-62803746483127822282011-06-28T19:11:19.558-04:002011-06-28T19:11:19.558-04:00you, know, Lewis - you just hit on one of the thin...you, know, Lewis - you just hit on one of the things most victims of [any/all] abuse have in common...<br /><br />either they "turn off" emotions entirely, and then spend months or years in therapy learning what emotions even ARE, or they never gain control of their emotions at all, instead learning how to APPEAR to not have them while being utterly terrified someone will "catch" them feeling in some proscribed way.<br /><br />they look exactly the same from the outside, and sometimes even the person with the problem doesn't know which is which [take me - for years, i went thru therapy to "learn" how to have emotions, because i thought i'd turned them all off. 7 years later, a new therapist said to me "why do you think you can't feel? it's not that you *can't*, it's that you hide it away so no one can see it and use it against you. no wonder you aren't getting past this point - you're working on the wrong thing!" and it was true - i FELT, but i didn't know WHAT i felt, only that no one, NO ONE, could know. it MUST be secret, because i'd learned very early that me feeling anything was going to get me hurt - but i didn't shut off, i repressed, and then became so terrified of what would happen if i *didn't* repress, that i became unable to EXpress - to the point where even some psychiatrists thought i'd "turned off". it probably would have been easier to fix if i HAD turned off, sigh]<br /><br />given that this is so - it's INCREDIBLY messed up that the first thing most people are taught, in these "religions", is to either "turn off" or "completely repress" - like, they've inverted the order of abuse, while keeping the SUBSTANCE of abuse the same.<br /><br />there's something just a bit sick in expecting those you abuse to inflict one of the worst symptoms of abuse on *themselves* in order to be "worthy" of the abuse itself!<br /><br /><br /><br />i scare quote "religions" because MY definition of religion is something along the lines of "a way to believe in and work for GOD" - and so far as i can tell, God isn't anywhere NEAR these quasi-religions; they've shut Him/Her* out, along with every single good thing about Christianity.<br /><br />*God is Omnipotent - i'm expected to believe that She can't be female when She wants to be? PLEASE! God is whatever God wants to be. or, as one funny book ["God; The Ultimate Autobiography"] put it, "God the Father, God the Son, God the Mother, God the Second Cousin Twice Removed, God, Your College Roomate's Brother's Girlfriend's Kid Sister..."denelianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08083149213773118359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6879552692521649812.post-58640691556992733302011-06-28T19:03:58.013-04:002011-06-28T19:03:58.013-04:00Your take on "staying sweet" is excellen...Your take on "staying sweet" is excellent. Great harm is done to those of us who are told to ignore our emotions as children. This was done in my house, and it had nothing to do with religion. Yet it did real harm to me. It took a failed marriage and another disaster of a relationship to realize that if I just went along, essentially "staying sweet", that when I woke up one morning unhappy and told my mate, they wouldn't understand and that in and of itself truly harms a relationship.<br /><br />Also, I like that you're comparing P/QF to FLDS. I have always thought this myself and I'm glad to see someone else calling them out on it. I think minus the polygamy the 2 have essentially the same results.camdenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16515377305539822004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6879552692521649812.post-74369753172242063392011-06-28T16:46:56.287-04:002011-06-28T16:46:56.287-04:00The last two paragraphs are actually quite awesome...The last two paragraphs are actually quite awesome, Lewis. In a back-handed way, when a young person in this movement becomes "the real you" they may just get the pleasure of seeing what P/QF is all about.<br /><br />The reaction to real emotion in this crap is just like a viper striking when the prey or predator gets too close - lightning quick, precise, and sometimes deadly.Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6879552692521649812.post-73984599968080349412011-06-28T16:42:02.322-04:002011-06-28T16:42:02.322-04:00"Those last six words there are a gift from t..."Those last six words there are a gift from the God of sarcasm - but I'll allow self-control to get the better of me"<br /><br />You mean, he forgot the 'sh'?Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6879552692521649812.post-16265201111443096522011-06-28T16:24:13.622-04:002011-06-28T16:24:13.622-04:00The more I read about these people the more I than...The more I read about these people the more I thank God that I was raised in the Lutheran church where we know that we are saved by grace and don't have all this legalism to deal with. I know if some one approached my pastor or the leader of our congregation (who's a woman by the way) and told them I was not following "God's Rules" they would look at them like the person was crazy.amulbunny's random thoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10621932038345682056noreply@blogger.com