Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Chick-fil-ibuster

Several people have asked for my thoughts on last week's "Chick-fil-A Appreciation Day", so I'm emerging from my summer hibernation to write a few words about it.


To start, I support Dan Cathy's right to express his view on any issue (whether personal, religious, or political), and I'd go to battle on his behalf to defend his right to express his views. This is above and beyond the fact that I may disagree with his views, and find the movements/organizations he supports objectionable. So, long story short - Dan Cathy wasn't the problem last week. Evangelical Christianity (the political movement it has become) was the problem. I'll explain why I believe this...

My Facebook newsfeed lit up with people showing pictures of CFAs packed wall-to-wall with Christians, many of them raving about it all and saying stuff like "What a great day for the KINGDOM!!!" and such. These people were carrying on as if something truly great had been accomplished for the cause of Christ.

The reality is, the most meaningful thing that any of these folk did last Monday was buy and eat a chicken sandwich. That's it. 

"But, but, but...How can you say that?! You weren't there! We were standing for God and His Word!"

I don't think God would have given a rip if you'd gone to Burger King and had a Whopper instead. You see,  I don't really think God cares which political party you support, what political platform you support, et cetera. I don't think eternity is determined by some kind of conservative/liberal Mason-Dixon line. But...I'm pretty sure Jesus was against hypocrisy, and there was a boatload of it last week. Lots of Pharisees, who don't think they're Pharisees, who'd be offended to be called Pharisees, but were absolute, blatant, flaming Pharisees last week.

"How dare you call me a hypocrite or a Pharisee!!!"

Well, it's not like you've given me a heck of a lot of choice in the matter. I mean, the ONLY way there'd have been a bigger crowd at CFA is if Mr. Cathy had expressed an opinion against gay Muslim abortion doctors. If he'd have spoken out against adultery, for instance, which btw is something Jesus actually taught about, maybe half or more of the CFA appreciators would've had to drop their stones and leave the mob. If he'd have spoken out against cheating on your taxes, which btw is something else Jesus taught about, we might've been left with what, two or three appreciators per CFA still holding stones?

It's a sad thing that Christianity has become a political movement. Even worse that those caught up in it can't tell the difference between faith and politics, thinking the two go hand in hand, declaring that this is a "Christian nation", declaring their desire to see our nation ruled by "God's Word", when common sense should tell them that such would completely do away with so much as the notion of religious freedom. You can't honestly tell people that they're free to follow whatever religion they choose, so long as they act, think, and believe like Christians. Common sense should also tell them that such would make America nothing more than a "Christian" version of the Taliban or Al Qaeda. Remember, all they want is for nations to be ruled by a holy book, too.

The problem starts when the extremists take over the conversation. On the right, it's basically the Tea Party leaders who've co-opted the evangelical platform, with people like Michele Bachmann, Sarah Palin, Rick Santorum, et cetera beating the drum and stirring up the discontent by making evangelicals feel threatened. These people are no more "Republican" than George Soros is "Democrat". They're extremists and radicals. Christians are being manipulated, and their fears and emotions are determining their actions and casting their votes on behalf of their absent brains. The culture which feeds religious addiction has blinded them so that they can't distinguish a blurred line between religion and politics, so that they can't genuinely tell you where their political conservatism ends and their faith begins - or vice versa. Blind emotional loyalty to "the cause" reigns supreme - and they can't really tell you what "the cause" is, at least not without becoming political.

It reminds me of something I've witnessed up close...the culture of NASCAR. NASCAR has a culture all it's own, and it's not something that you "dabble" in. The people in it are in it. In the early part of the last decade, I was involved in a few Motor Racing Outreach events. We'd be at the track across three or four days, doing concerts each night somewhere around the track or in one of the on-sight campgrounds (these people bring their campers in for the entire week, and they drink, and they drink some more, and they wash it down with a drink or two). By the time any actual racing events rolled around, the typical race fan was three sheets. They'd be decked out in the hat and t-shirt of their favorite driver, with a beer ever at the ready resting in a koozie with the image or number of their favorite driver. Many of them just wander aimlessly around the track. But...if and when they hear the name of their favorite driver over the track PA system, it doesn't matter if they're at the concession stand, in the toilet, in the parking lot, or wherever, they turn toward the track, raise their beer, and let out a "Woooooooooooo!!!" This is basically the extent of their engagement to the actual racing events. Drunk, no real idea what's actually happening on the track, but if you hit the right trigger, you get a demonstrative display of emotion based on loyalty.

The above is more or less what happened last week. A group of people, drunk on an everflowing tap of Christian culture, were triggered (probably by their pastors telling them the day before to go to CFA), and they raised their chicken sandwiches toward the CFA track and went "Woooooooooooo!!!" They really didn't know much about what was happening on the CFA track - and they don't care as long as their driver wins and the other guys lose.

This doesn't account for everybody who was there last week...but my money would say it accounts for most.   


34 comments:

  1. Lewis, I'm glad you wrote on this situation.

    After having read many blog posts by gay authors about this issue, I have come to the conclusion that the LOUDEST message given by Christians last week was "F*** you fags, look how much we hate you!"

    I cannot reiterate this enough: EVEN IF THAT IS NOT THE MESSAGE YOU INTEND TO GIVE, THAT IS HOW IT LOOKS TO AN OUTSIDER WHEN YOU GANG UP WITH OTHER CHRISTIANS TO PATRONIZE CFA AND THEN POST ABOUT IT ON FB. You may think you're going to support freedom of speech, but the only thing the gay community sees is how much you want to rub in their face that no one likes them. That is a message that we as Christ-followers cannot afford to give, NO MATTER HOW MUCH PERSONAL INCONVENIENCE WE FEEL ABOUT HAVING TO CHANGE OUR BEHAVIOR. Jesus didn't say "Turn the other cheek unless it inconveniences you, and in that case don't."

    You can say all you want "Well that's not why I was there!" Tough. If the KKK was out there selling chicken sandwiches, would you honestly expect me to go there, post proudly on FB about it, and then say that I didn't mean for people of non-white descent to be offended?

    Also, I'm dubious about how much "free speech" was really involved here. I know firsthand from friends in the gay community that the gay community was boycotting CFA looooooooong before Dan Cathy made his statement. The media just now picked up on it.

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    1. Agree completely. Thanks for taking a stand for Jesus and what really matters to Him, at least according to the commands He gave:

      Love one another as I have loved you.
      Love your neighbor as yourself.
      Love your enemy and do them good.

      Yep, that covers pretty much all gay people: the Christian gay people, the gay people I share society with, heck even the gay people who do me wrong.

      I think religious conservatives don't follow the same Jesus that's in the Bible, that's what I think.

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  2. Didn't account for me, though I was at Chick-Fil-A on the appointed "appreciation day". Fact is, it was my anniversary, I wanted to eat breakfast with my honey, and CFA is - if nothing else - local, fast, and delicious.

    I get what you're saying, though. It got so bad I started hiding those CFA appreciation day posts on FB. Not only those, but the political ads, too.

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    1. I was referring more to people who showed up by the van load with their friends and took a bunch of pictures, trying for all the world to "show off" just HOW appreciative of CFA they were. I wouldn't count an anniversary couple chowing down on a sandwich as looking that way. ;)

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  3. Nice post. I've never quite understood how the religious right's mantra of "freedom of religion" and "America's a Christian Nation" go together. I guess it's that warped sense that America is a christian nation and you're free to leave if you don't agree. I can't count how often I've seen that sentiment expressed.

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    1. I think the "freedom of religion" thing mostly crops up when certain Christians start to feel like *they're* not free. Because, you know, someone said something bad about them or whatever.

      Lewis's totally right about the role of emotion/loyalty here. Basically, when the above happens, it's the emotion & loyalty that short-circuits the person's brain to where he doesn't even notice that criticism/insults =/= oppression.

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  4. Beautifully, beautifully said, Lewis.

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  5. I only discovered your blog a couple of weeks ago. I gotta say, I LOVE this post (and I've read a lot of blogs on CFA, which is pretty strange for a Brit). You are so right. About Christianity and politics. And religious freedom. Amen!!!

    And if you ever felt like you wanted to finish your story about your engagement, I'd love to read it. I actually found your blog because I was interested in how similar my upbringing was to the patriarchal fundie stuff, although my folks aren't religious in any way. Reading your story - about your ex's home life - really made me feel supported in the things I see in my family that others (arguably still in the 'movement') don't see. So thanks so much for sharing it.

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  6. And hey, the first amendment is about the government. The government wasn't telling anyone they can't believe that being gay is sinful, so eating at CFA had *nothing* to do with supporting the first amendment. Not a thing.

    In addition, the first amendment does not guarantee that there will not be repercussions for voicing your opinions. I hope that the folks who supported CFA that day were listening to the Dixie Chicks while they drove there. You know, for consistent support of free speech.

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    1. The US government wasn't, but several city mayors (Boston, NYC, and a few others) were expressing very strong views that CFA wasn't welcome in their cities because CFA didn't represent the city views. These mayor has since back-pedaled and tried to say that they didn't actually mean they'd prohibit opening of a CFA (although one of them vowed to actually do just that). I think the Appreciate CFA Day was mainly done in response to the statements of these mayors.

      On a side note: my wife and I have noted how people are considered open-minded as long as they agree with the main opinion, but if they dissent, then they are ignorant closed-minded people. I've seen that happen with friends on both sides of the political spectrum. The average American isn't really open to actually thinking about their political views. A point Lewis made can be extended to refer to most Americans and politics: they are NASCAR political fans.

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    2. Ah, point taken about the mayors. Thank you.

      And yes, this is true re: politics and the lack of thought, there. Too many people are too willing to vote for a candidate just because s/he has the "right" letter after his name (whether that is "R" or "D" or whatever....). It's lazy and it doesn't help accomplish anything.

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    3. Petticoat PhilosopherAugust 17, 2012 at 1:27 PM

      *Bangs head against wall*

      I can't speak for Chicago but the mayor of Boston NEVER did anything close to suggesting that CFA would not be allowed in Boston. What he said was that he "urged" them to reconsider opening a branch in Boston. Then he said a bunch of other angry things that hurt the homophobes' widdle feelings because he's just SO MEAN!!! And apparently that makes him a first-amendment violator.

      He did no "back-pedaling." If he was called upon to further explain his actions to people who don't understand that "urging" and saying stuff that pisses off Christian conservatives is not a civil liberties violation, that's not his fault.

      And, c'mon. These people howl about free speech any time someone disagrees with them publicly. They have demonstrated numerous times that they think that free speech only applies to Christians, or that free speech means receiving no criticism or public censure for what you say. They don't understand what the First Amendment is. So I think saying that this whole CFA pilgrimage was inspired by the words of some random Chicago alderman or a two-paragraph letter by the mayor of Boston is just giving them way too much credit.

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    4. TheRicker - I just wanted to say, really interesting point about "open-minded" = conforming to the majority opinion. I've noticed that too but hadn't quite put words to it. Now that I think about it, though, I've seen it a LOT.

      Actually, you might say it's inherent in the word. "I want your mind to be open... so I can put things in it." I wonder if this should really be quite such a popular word...

      Well, I have to go reflect on this now.

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  7. Lewis, it's great to have you back. =)

    I am so saddened by the CFA Day of Appreciation and the gusto with which everyone demanded their rights (which had not been violated in any way) be RESPECTED!

    I kept thinking of I Peter 2: 21- 23.
    21 For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps:

    22 Who did no sin, neither was guile found in his mouth:

    23 Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not; but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously:

    Earlier in that same passage:

    12 Having your conversation honest among the Gentiles: that, whereas they speak against you as evildoers, they may by your good works, which they shall behold, glorify God in the day of visitation.

    13 Submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord's sake: whether it be to the king, as supreme;

    14 Or unto governors, as unto them that are sent by him for the punishment of evildoers, and for the praise of them that do well.

    15 For so is the will of God, that with well doing ye may put to silence the ignorance of foolish men:

    16 As free, and not using your liberty for a cloke of maliciousness, but as the servants of God.


    Good works, no tit for tat allowed, suffer silently committing your way to God- that's what I read about how believers should respond to what they consider a hostile world. I have never read ANYWHERE in the Bible:

    Demand people respect your opinion! Gather as a mob to demonstrate your numbers are strong! Brag about how much power you have and how your enemies had better take notice and not dare to challenge you again!

    If anyone knows where these instructions are found in the Bible, please enlighten me. In thirty plus years of reading God's Word I don't remember ever coming across such counsel.

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    1. Am I allowed to recommend a resource? What do you think of this? Is Mohler right, wrong? http://religion.blogs.cnn.com/2012/07/31/my-take-chick-fil-a-controversy-reveals-religious-liberty-under-threat/

      I'm not assuming that you'd want to judge him, but if you think there's a right and wrong, feel free to condemn or condone his view. Thanks!

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    2. Mohler is right about a couple of things, i.e. the Mayors and other politicians being waaaaay out of line in their response to Cathy. I see him as wrong about most of the rest. He's more a politician/businessman than a "minister", and he's just protecting his turf and agenda.

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    3. For instance...I don't think Dan Cathy's mistake was in saying he supports "traditional" marriage (gays have been boycotting CFA for years), but rather in going so far as to say that, in essence, gays are going to bring about God's judgment on America. That's a little extremist. Anyone who holds such an opinion is an extremist, quite frankly along the same lines as the Islamic extremists we consider to be our enemies. Also, to believe such a thing demonstrates a level of considerable confusion about his own faith...is he Christian (under a new, PERSONAL covenant in Christ that deals with individuals on an individual level) or is he Jewish (still under a national, corporate covenant)?

      While it still should be protected free speech, speech which hints, implies, or outright suggests that this is to be a Christian nation ruled by biblical principle SHOULD come under attack. It's unAmerican. Christianity isn't, and never has been, under attack in this country. Extremism is fair game, however, especially when one puts extremist views forward in the public arena.

      Keep in mind that Mohler is connected to Focus on the Family, which is FAR more a conservative sociopolitical dominionist group than anything Christ-like.

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    4. Al Mohler represents everything tainted and spoiled in the Southern Baptist Convention, or GCB as they are trying to rebrand. I would no more seek his opinion about Jesus or holy living than I would ask a vegetarian to recommend a good chop house.

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    5. Petticoat PhilosopherAugust 17, 2012 at 1:37 PM

      Eh, Lewis, Dan Cathy may not be Jewish but, um, I am. Is that so bad? Please do not equate us with people like Dan Cathy, especially since most of us SUPPORT marriage equality. I love your writing and I know you don't mean anything hurtful by it, but it is really not your place to define what being Jewish means or entails. We have been misunderstood and mis-defined by people outside our community (often for the purpose of making the basic point that "you don't want to be like THOSE people, do you?" Do you want to be a Christian or do you want to be a *shudder* JEW!) often enough and it hurts.

      Also, see my above comment about why what the Mayor of Boston at least did, was completely within his rights. I suggest you find the text of the actual letter (which is quite short) so you can see for yourself how innocuous it really is.

      Otherwise, thank you for your well-expressed thoughts, as usual.

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  8. Great illustration between the NASCAR sub-culture and the ...CFA-ers or whatever they are.

    To me it really boils down to the people. In this case, gay people. Whether I believe their lifestyle is "right" or not, they're still people. I believe God wants me to show kindness, compassion and respect for all people not just those who live exactly how I do. Jesus said people would know his own by the love they show, not by how big their protest sign is.

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  9. Curiously, I relayed your two (excellent) points about divorce and tax fraud to friends during a CFA discussion -- and one person replied, "But two wrongs don't make a right." This is a person who was raised Lutheran and otherwise has a balanced outlook on life, unlike the law-focused patriarchal folks. She also has a very beloved family member who is gay. It's incredible, what the over-the-top reactions of both sides can do to the thinking populace in a situation like this.

    IN any case, keep commenting, Lewis! Well, I mean, *after* the summer break, of course!

    MJB

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  10. Good post.

    I was just reflecting on how sad it is that Christianity has been divorced from real life... How few "Christians" believe Christ is Total Truth! Some people think it's true for everyone but them, others think it's true for nobody but them. And a few (called Christians) believe it's true for everybody -- first for them, and then for the world. With grace, these people articulate the truth, even when it costs.

    The message of grace is always most offensive to Pharisees, who always see everybody as more messed up than them... The truth is, we're all messed up, and Jesus saves those who receive him with faith and repentance. In the offensive words of Jesus, "Repent and believe the good news!"

    To transition over to something one of the prophets spoke (as a commandment of God, since the prophet's had the authority of God), John the Baptists told Herod that he shouldn't have his brother's wife (Matthew 14). And Herod put him in prison for it! And Jesus endorsed John the Baptist as the greatest of those born of women (Matthew 11:11)!

    So we should try to be biblical. Apparently, it's OK to tell the culture and/or political figures that they are WRONG. That's what John the Baptist did. On the other hand, we must see our own wrongness/sinfulness and repent of it. We must be humble.

    I commend Dietrich Bonhoeffer to you. He's not a perfect man by any means, but I think you'd find him helpful in exploring the relationship between church and state.

    Finally, I apologize if I screwed up in anything I've said here, or if I've been offensive in the way I've said it.

    Grace and peace be yours,

    ~Anon.

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  11. It especially didn't help that Chick-Fil-A donates to known hate groups, such as the Family Research Council, and that's what has been the driver of this boycott for at least a couple years now. I don't doubt that this fact was unknown amongst a large portion of the people in attendance, and their subsequent conduct on the internet at large seems to belie their true feelings on the matter.

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  12. *MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT SARCASM ALERT*

    Kelly Crawford was right about you, Lewis, and this blog post is proof!
    You are the spawn of Satan!!!





    So tired of the knee jerk reactions of people who basically mean well, but doing things like this CFA business and posting pictures about it on facebook does little else but make the person feel like they are doing something real. It's for them, not really for anyone else.

    Anonymous, Bonhoeffer left an excellent example for us so that we might know what a more modern person who actually did something substantial to stand against evil and demonstrated the true cost of discipleship.

    God have mercy on us.

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  13. At least Cobert found some good fodder.


    http://www.colbertnation.com/the-colbert-report-videos/417413/august-06-2012/chick-fil-a-appreciation-day

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  14. What happened? A rich man got richer--free publicity and likely a lifetime best in Chicken Sandwich sales....... Freedom of speech--even when unpopular--is still freedom of speech!

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  15. Seems that you actually make the case for the vast majority of folks attending CFA Day on August 1st. Yes, some in the homosexual community and others have been boycotting CFA for a few years. Did we ever see Conservative Christians come out in mass to support CFA while this was happening? The answer is of course not.
    The vast majority of people came out after Dan Cathy was threatened with financial ruin and told he couldn't do business in certain cities and that high ranking politicians of some of our nations largest cities would do everything to block his business.
    That is what riled people up. It was a freedom of speech, specifically a freedom of religious speech issue for the vast majority of people.
    The point is not whether said politicians would actually be legal in trying to stop CFA from entering their cities, the point is that they said that CFA was not welcome in their cities.
    And then of course that means that anyone who might possibly have some of the same deeply held religious beliefs about marriage would also not be welcome in their cities.
    See how that works?
    And of course it wasn't until the people in mass pushed back against that unconstitutional 'hate' speech from those politicians that they began to walk back their remarks.

    Also, Dan Cathy's comments about God's judging of America came a few months in a radio interview and were not a part of the print media interview which initially got him in to hot water with the secular media, etc.
    Not that it really matters, but people have seemed to portray it as if Dan Cathy went off on some long rant against the homosexual community and it is not true. That is false.
    He was interviewed by Christian media outlets and answered their questions. If one takes the time to read the interview and listen to the radio broadcast one would find that he never once mentioned homosexual marriage or hating anyone.
    He actually was more critical of the Christian community at large and their poor record on marriage with all the divorce, fatherless children, etc.
    It's fine and good to disagree with Dan Cathy and his beliefs.

    But, when you start threatening economic peril to a man's company and try to bully him in to disavowing his own deeply held personal beliefs then the majority of Americans will call that out for what it is. Hate and discrimination.

    Boycott him all you want but don't buy in to the lies about him or his company. and then repeat them as if it is a fact.

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    1. If he were a Muslim, there'd have been no CFA Appreciation Day (think about that for a bit)...but you keep on believing this was all about free speech if you want to.

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    2. I also want to add...Rush Limbaugh, Sean Hannity, and Glenn Beck are God-awful sources for news.

      And I'd like to repeat once more...If Dan Cathy were a Muslim, there'd have been no Chick-fil-A Appreciation Day. To those who went to CFA Appreciation Day in support of Mr. Cathy - if you'd have still gone if he were a Muslim, then congratulations...you're not a hypocrite and a Pharisee.

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    3. "Dan Cathy was threatened with financial ruin and told he couldn't do business in certain cities and that high ranking politicians of some of our nations largest cities would do everything to block his business."

      Interesting! I know for a fact that there is but one Chic-fil-A in Chicago, and I'm told there's one in Boston. I've no idea about NYC, but if our nation's largest cities were ever responsible for the financial ruin of Cathy, I'd be a money's uncle. Which would be really weird, since I'm a woman.

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  16. I've missed your posts, Lewis! Nice to see you back...and of course you nailed it as usual. It is at times like these that I especially hate having so many "good" Christian acquaintances on Facebook due to my radical Christian upbringing and then four years at a little Christian college. It's SO crazy how there's no distinctive differences between many conservative Christians and political conservatives. I love how Christians rant hotly about how our holy, Christian founding fathers would have been so horrified to see what our "wicked" nation has come to when in my lofty opinion it the influence of the cray Christians in politics, erasing that line between church and state, that would shock them.

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  17. Interesting blog, and I am in full agreement with the CFA free-speech nut crowd. It was a gay-bashing day, that's it.
    I am a former conservative christian (now athiest thank god :) and it truly wasn't until I left all religion behind that I was able to actually think things through without the holy-book blinders on.
    Good blogging by the way, even though I don't think you have taken enough steps back in your evaluation of what is truth.
    Even (or maybe ESPECIALLY) the faith you were born into should be examined in the harshest light, just the same as you examine other religions.
    For me it was life-changing.

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  18. CFA-day made me admit three things:
    1. The religious right (including my family) is constantly reacting to perceived oppression against them--which is basically anyone openly not agreeing with them
    2. Because of point one, these types can always justify tasteless and/or hurtful actions as reasonable and just
    3. Being in the closet is so not worth having a relationship with my family

    *headdesk*

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